Where my girls at?

I noticed this cycle growing up where people would be friends for some time and then separate. It was the oddest thing to me and I promised myself that I would never do that with my friend group. I was wrong. I think I was fixated on the whole idea of having the same friends for life. Diapers to well diapers (Depends) again. LOL Then I realized that people change, dynamics change and we grow.

The group of women, my closest friends and yes bridesmaids were not all my childhood friends. They have in fact helped me grow more as a woman than my childhood friends ever could. I am only close with one of my childhood friends. Yes, only one made it and that’s because we both had the same goals and ambitions, and she too helped me grow. I had to surround myself with people like me, people who shared my common interest and goals. I think we forget that.

You try to hang on to those friendships honestly just because. This is not a knock at my old childhood friends not at all. We grew and went our separate ways and life appears to be going quite well for them.

This is for my current group of friends. The women who push me daily to be the best damn version of myself.

We all have our own respective lives now. I watch in amazement as they handle graduate programs, children, jobs they love and also jobs that attack their souls. The absolute strongest group of women I know. I watch them as they discover their truths and I am inspired. I used to want this Sex and the City or Girlfriends type of friendship. Getting sushi every day and lunch and dinner. But as I got older I realized one, that was expensive as hell, and two that was not real.

Your best friends move away, they get married, they have children and sometimes it’s not in the same city as you. And that is perfectly okay. It makes seeing them and talking to them so much better! I get to hear funny stories about the kids, and crazy work stories, or catch up on Alumni gossip, talk about the new trends and scams in Atlanta.

So this post is for them. For everything they have done and will continue to do, and really do not know it yet. Even though we aren’t In the same city, hell the same state. I know my girls always have my back.